Okay, this whole warnings wank is making me queasy. I am kind of appalled that people are even arguing about putting up warnings, what the actual fuck?! I don't see any good reason not to put up a simple warning to save people serious hurt when the readers have expressly stated that they were indeed triggered by the content of your fic. The idea that it is "spoilery" or ruins the artistic integrity of your fic is pretty stupid, because most authors have no problem revealing the pairing(s) in their header, which, let's face it, pretty much tells you more than a warning for dub-con does. Is the idea of shocking your readers with some surprise non-con really worth some of them reliving excruciating and traumatic experiences? And no, just because published novelists don't do it, that doesn't mean that you are not being a dickwad by ignoring the people asking you to help them avoid getting hurt.

The attitude that goes roughly "I'm not responsible for your emotional wellbeing, grow up and be stronger!" sickens me. It's offensive and disturbing, not to mention rude to most people who aren't in fact emotionally stunted. I can't even believe people are going around comparing squicks to triggering, it is so ignorant and insensitive I don't even know how these people don't implode with their own self-importance. Newsflash: not everything is about you, and please don't be a dick! I don't understand the idea that if you have a traumatic past you should get the fuck out of fandom until you're "over it" just because some people don't feel like putting up a warning, seriously, what the actual fuck? Fandom and fanfiction is a great thing, and a big part of its value lies in the fact that anyone can participate. That's what makes it wonderful, that's why I'm here. It's easily accessed entertainment that you can be a part of, and I get that writers might not want to think about serious issues, I do. This is your happy place, and you don't want to take it too seriously. But just, stay with me here, do the victims of sexual assault or violence not deserve the same thing? Do they not deserve to have fandom as their easy entertainment, devoid of seriousness and anguish? If they happen upon a fic that sounds like fun, don't they deserve to know in advance that their entertainment is going to turn into something else entirely for them? Just. Put up a fucking warning, seriously. Please. Let's all hold hands and not be shitheads together.

For anyone who is still unclear about what triggers really are and why you should really really really warn for things that are pretty common triggers, please read this post by impertinence. Warning: Very explicit discussion of sexual assault and the nature, anatomy, cause & effect of triggers. Is itself triggery.

See, that wasn't so hard, was it?